It’s hard to let go of old habits. We grow up creating a plan for ourselves and when that’s disrupted it can be very distressing but adapting to your circumstances is so much more important for your quality of life than clinging onto a past dream.
...Squeeze them and chuck them in the bin.
Having spent so long living in the far past and the distant future, a happy now felt inconceivable at first. But now I am here, living firmly in the here and now - I could never return to those turbulent days.